Category: Planning Issues Tags: asked December 14, 2012
My fiance is dead set on us writing our own vows. Im totally stumped. Everything I write sounds awful. Thanks!
Tough one - you've got three ways forward. 1) Find out what she's writing. Suggest that you write them together and basically add "ditto" to everything that she's got. Throw in a few "OMG! I can't believe we're so on the same wavelength!" and remember to replace her name for yours. 2) Find a series of other vows that sum up what you're wanting to say. There's a few things out there already but I'd suggest heading for the poets. Those dudes are black belts in feelings and that's really what this is all about. 3) Open a beer, listen to some C&W and say how you really feel about her. Forget about emotions. Forget about how to actually say things. Just ask yourself honestly what this woman means to you. What she does for you. Write those things out in your own words and don't try and make it fancy. I hate to say, write from the heart - but do that. Drink a beer and say how you feel. Of the three the final one will get you the best results. The other two will get you through it but you don't really just want to phone this one in I reckon. Some more advice: http://www.iamstaggered.com/blogs/blog-writing-your-own-vows-for-a-church-wedding/ http://www.iamstaggered.com/groom/diy-vows-i-dos-and-i-donts/